and coaching are extremely difficult vocations. By establishing an
understanding of each position, we are better able to accept the actions
of the other and provide greater benefits to our children. As parents,
when your children become involved in our program, you have a right to
understand what expectations are placed on your child. This begins with
clear communication from the coach of your child’s program.
Communication you should expect from your child’s coach:
- Philosophy of the coach
- Expectations the coach has for your child as well as all the players on the team
- Locations and times of all practices and contests
- Team requirements (general expectations, special equipment, off-season schedule, etc.)
- Procedure should your child be injured during participation
- Discipline that results in the denial of your child’s participation
Communication coaches expect from parents:
your children become involved in programs at Blind Brook, they will
experience some of the most rewarding moments of their lives. It is
important to understand that there also may be times when things do not
go the way you or your child wishes. At these times, discussion with the
coach is encouraged.
- Concerns expressed directly to coach
- Notification of any schedule conflicts well in advance
- Specific concern in regard to a coach’s philosophy and/or expectations
Appropriate concerns to discuss with coaches:
- The treatment of your child, mentally or physically
- Ways to help your child improve
- Concerns about your child’s behavior
It is very difficult to accept your child not playing as much as you may want. However, playing time is earned in the estimation of the coaching staff and is not an entitlement.
Coaches are professionals and they make judgment decisions based on
what they believe to be the best for all students involved. As you have
read from the list above, certain things can be and should be discussed
with the coach.
Issues not appropriate to discuss with coaches:
1. Playing time
2. Team strategy
3. Play calling
4. Other student-athletes
5. The direction of the team/program
are situations that may require a conference between the coach and the
parent. It is important that both parties involved have a clear
understanding of the others’ position. When these conferences are
necessary, the following procedure should be followed to help promote a
resolution to the issue of concern.
Procedures to follow to discuss a concern with a coach:
do not attempt to confront a coach before or after a contest or
practice. These can be emotional times for both the parent and the
coach. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolution. This is
why waiting 24 hours before the initial contact with the coach is
such a crucial step in the resolution process.
- Wait 24 hours before you make initial contact with the coach
- After you have waited 24 hours call or email the coach to set-up an appointment
- If the coach cannot be reached, call DJ Goldman, the Athletic Director, and a meeting will be arranged for you
What can a parent do if the meeting with the coach did not provide a satisfactory resolution?
the Athletic Director to set up an appointment. The parent/guardian,
coach and Athletic Director will meet do discuss the problem. At this
meeting, the appropriate next steps can be determined.
are encouraged to discuss issues and problems with the Athletic
Director. However, if a parent has specific complaints regarding a
coach, then the coach must have the opportunity to be present to meet
with the parent.